Bereznek’s article is mean/bad/elitist than on the truly horrible misogyny directed at her. There have been vastly more words exhausted on whether or not Ms. There are very few single comments here that I disagree with. This is more about how sexism can function independently within a group of educated people. There’s pushback against the pushback too. Because I don’t need yet another way of being called a freak. I won’t even small-talk to people about my harmless fun-times. The problem is that this is what happens when I tell, as Lilivati said. Which I do as a means of escaping all that shit for just a little while, and doing something fun. My problem is that there are people in my life who know about my being – and to whom I still wouldn’t tell What I Did During The Weekend.Įspecially if I spend too much time(tm) on said embarrassing activity. Your hobbies are not acceptable, so the “normal people” around you do their best to shame and humiliate you into more acceptable behavior. Why not? Because -this- is what happens when you do.
Major geeks bounce bully free#
Nor am I going to argue that nerds are an “oppressed group” on the order of other groups.īut when I’m at work and people are talking about their weekends, about how they rerouted the cable in their house or won a softball game or other “acceptable” uses of free time, when asked about MY weekend, I do not say “Oh, I picked out some new miniatures to paint and then spent most of Sunday playing Pathfinder online with my friends.”
I’m not defending the misogyny and sexism evident in the comments, because there is no call for that. There’s a lot of push back, particularly noting that while the Internet at large has been massively faily, Alyssa Bereznak’s date (Jon Finkel) has himself responded quite calmly and non-horribly, and some people talking about Bereznak’s use of anti-geek snobbery and contempt. It’s awful! It’s mean! It’s unfair! And, worst of all, it results in women thinking they have the right not to sleep with men they find unattractive!ĭoyle’s comment thread is worth a read. has found you guilty of OPPRESSION! That most horrible, socially harmful, Internet-comment-generating of all “oppressions:” Thinking stuff is kind of dorky. Sady Doyle argues that it’s OK, good in fact, to have preferences in dating and to exercise them: You’ll think you’ve found a normal bearded guy with a job, only to end up sharing goat cheese with a world champion of nerds.Įlly Hart describes Bereznak’s actions as creepy, bitchy and predatory (and apparently there’s much worse out there).
I was lured on a date thinking I’d met a normal finance guy, only to realise he was a champion dweeb in hedge funder’s clothing… Mothers, warn your daughters! This could happen to you. This is what happens, I thought, when you lie in your online profile. Here was a guy who had dedicated a good chunk of his life to mastering Magic, on a date with a girl who can barely play Solitaire. Eventually I even felt a little bit bad that I didn’t know shit about the game. Who did he hang out with? “I’ve met all my best friends through Magic.” Strike three. How often? “I’m preparing for a tournament this weekend.” Strike two. She didn’t really spare the snark:Īt dinner I got straight down to it. Warning: some misogynist and ableist slurs quoted, and links may contain comments with additional slurs.Īlyssa Bereznak went on a date, discovered her date was a champion Magic: The Gathering player whose life centred on it and thought it was uncool of him not to mention that in his OKCupid profile.
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